Your child custody arrangement may require your children to spend time at both parents’ homes. Transitioning between houses can often be difficult for children, and there are several things you can do to make this easier for them.
One of the most challenging aspects of going to the other house may be the exchange. Fatherly says that you should make sure the kids know that it is okay for them to go to their other parent’s house. You could help them pack to make sure they have everything they will need. Instead of having your ex-spouse pick them up, you may want to drive the children over. This can help the children see that it is all right for them to leave. Additionally, it can prevent them from feeling like one parent is taking them away.
Keep things consistent
Parents magazine says that it can be hard for children to adjust to a new routine every time they transition between homes. You may want to establish rules that the children follow at each house. They may have set homework hours, for example, and they may go to bed at the same time. Following the same routine can make it easier for the children to settle in.
Consider your children’s opinions
You may have purchased a new house after the divorce. This new family home may feel unfamiliar to your children. You may want to let them help decorate their new bedrooms. They could choose the paint color, for example. Creating their room can help ensure that the children return to a space where they feel comfortable.
You may want to use a calendar to keep things organized in both houses. This can serve as a visual reminder of when the children will move to the other house. This may also make the transition easier.
