There are many ways to manage your family life in the initial stages of divorce. If you are like most, it is probable that you require space from your ex-spouse during this time. However, if you have children with your ex, you will need to take extra steps to ensure their well-being.
It is natural at the beginning of a divorce to desire space from your ex, but not have concrete plans for moving forward with parenting at this time. This is where a “nesting” living situation may help you. According to NBC, nesting is a parenting method that keeps the children living in the family home while the adults take “shifts” parenting.
Turn the “typical” arrangement on its head
In a “traditional” co-parenting situation, the parents have separate houses and the children move between them. With nesting, it is the parents that are doing the moving. This can be particularly useful in the beginning stages of divorce, as it will give you and your ex the space that you need from each other. It will also allow your children to keep their routines mostly-intact, other than only one parent will be in the family home at all times.
Can nesting last forever?
Theoretically, yes. However, it is very difficult to maintain a nesting situation for a prolonged period, both personally and financially. It is likely that you will want to set up your own completely independent living situation at some point. Plus, nesting for too long can give your children false hope that you and your ex will reconcile.
Nesting is an off-beat choice, but it is the right one for some families. Nesting can help your family transition into a secure post-divorce life.