Telling your children about divorce can trigger strong emotions and fear about the future. Your children might lack the maturity to effectively process everything rationally.
Helping your children through this challenging time will require patience and unconditional love. Your ability to stay focused on their needs during this difficult time may give them what they need to adapt.
Provide reassurance of your love
Sometimes children feel as though they should take responsibility for their parents’ divorce. According to The Mayo Clinic, remind your children that the divorce is not their fault. Reiterate your love and commitment to them. Remind them of your desire for everyone to continue living a happy and fulfilling life and make a list of ways that you can achieve this outcome together.
Involve them in planning for the future
With the uncertainty of the future, your children will appreciate having an idea of what will come. When appropriate, involve them in this planning. Make sure you know what their desires and goals are and do your best to incorporate those into your life. Including them in the process of rebuilding might provide comfort and purpose during an unprecedented time.
Seek support when needed
If your children have not handled the news of your divorce well, they might act out and begin experiencing behavioral problems. Sometimes it might feel like you cannot handle everything alone. If this happens, consider seeking professional support in the form of therapy. Working with a third party might give your children the tools they need to effectively navigate complex emotions.
Your children can still live a normal and happy life regardless of divorce. A proactive approach to safeguarding their well-being may facilitate a successful adjustment.