After a divorce, one of your biggest hurdles is to put your feelings aside for your children. Even when you have your children’s best interests at heart, you may find it difficult to forget the arguments and pain of the divorce.
However, to co-parent effectively, you and your former spouse have to work together and avoid fighting. According to Oprah Daily, you do not have to be friends with your ex to care for your children.
Be as flexible as possible
Try to be flexible for your children. Be able to give your ex-spouse the benefit of the doubt if he or she needs to reschedule visitation. Sometimes one or both of you may have a tough situation that makes it challenging to meet your obligations. Show flexibility and consider trading days when possible. Do your best to be there for each other when it involves the kids. If your ex messages you about your children, you should respond quickly. When you offer your ex respect, you may receive it in turn.
Be communicative during disagreements
You and your ex will disagree sometimes. Do not argue in front of the children. Choose a neutral place to discuss your disagreements. If necessary, speak through text or email to avoid heated arguments. When you talk through messaging, you have more opportunities to think about your response. Treat your ex with respect and discuss your disagreements without putting each other down.
When you prove you can put aside your differences and work through problems, you set a good example for your children. Children need to see stability between you and the co-parent.