Going through a divorce with a child can make the process even more challenging. In addition to coping with the new reality, you have to watch your child try to wrap their head around what’s going on.
Nonetheless, ensuring your child is well-informed about relevant matters can make the experience more manageable. One of the things to explain to your child is child custody.
Here are three tips to consider when holding such a conversation:
1. Agree on what to say
You and your co-parent should first discuss what to share with your child after you have a child custody schedule. While you want to keep your child informed, you also don’t want to overwhelm them with details. So, agree on what to say and have a united front during the meeting.
2. Use simple language
Use age-appropriate language when discussing child custody with your child to reduce confusion and anxiety. If your child is younger, start by explaining what custody is and how your schedule works. If you have a teenager, chances are they understand some of the terms, but it still helps to use simple language and ask questions.
Consider using visual aids if your child is younger. For example, use different colors on a calendar for the days they will be with each parent. You can color one week and ask them to do the next.
3. Talk about what will not change
Seeing how things are about to change can make your child anxious. Therefore, you should also discuss what will not change. Let them know they will always be loved by both parents, both houses are home and similar rules will be observed. You should also talk about family traditions and after-school activities that will not change.
Discussing child custody with your child can be difficult if you are not well-prepared. Get more information to know how to smooth the discussion.